tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-753685376168608657.post2830607591035455601..comments2023-12-02T03:37:15.740-05:00Comments on New Voice, New Life: Interpersonal ConflictKayleehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07637653451031426942noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-753685376168608657.post-80583712708897030882013-11-16T09:42:50.549-05:002013-11-16T09:42:50.549-05:00It's the worst. When something like this happe...It's the worst. When something like this happens to me for some reason the negative that one person says still sticks with me even after all the positive from other people. It will fade with time though, everything will be ok. We know none of those things she said to you are true.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17701954673844293150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-753685376168608657.post-47521559870972406652013-11-15T17:39:27.299-05:002013-11-15T17:39:27.299-05:00yeah for sure! There definitely are "types&qu...yeah for sure! There definitely are "types" that different degrees attract.... And I've experienced the same thing you have in conversations about psychotropic drugs.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02697957718424745938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-753685376168608657.post-44284740978704187152013-11-15T08:31:34.323-05:002013-11-15T08:31:34.323-05:00you are gonna make me cry Alie, thank you!! At lun...you are gonna make me cry Alie, thank you!! At lunch yesterday, one of my friends was telling me about a problem she's been having with someone in HER group, and we concluded that yes, even highly educated adults can say some pretty awful, immature things. I would have expected this behavior in middle school - not GRADUATE school. anyways, you are the best, thank you!Kayleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07637653451031426942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-753685376168608657.post-3527245427176262132013-11-15T08:28:43.212-05:002013-11-15T08:28:43.212-05:00that's actually a really good point and is som...that's actually a really good point and is something I've noticed in others - we had a discussion in one of my classes about psychotropic drugs and you could just TELL the people who'd been on them by the way they talked, you know? And it was a not-insignificant minority of the class.. So yes, there seems to be something about certain degree programs that attracts certain types of people, kind of like how eating disorders are disproportionately represented among dieticians. Just something to remember when I start taking things too personally, I suppose! thanks LauraKayleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07637653451031426942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-753685376168608657.post-72184390116804675882013-11-15T01:53:05.764-05:002013-11-15T01:53:05.764-05:00one thing is sure - you are clearly the victim of ...one thing is sure - you are clearly the victim of her own interpersonal struggles and her own interpersonal deficits and ineffectiveness and nothing to do with you.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02697957718424745938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-753685376168608657.post-26759042214836475642013-11-15T01:52:20.419-05:002013-11-15T01:52:20.419-05:00This is a totally rude and unprofessional thing to...This is a totally rude and unprofessional thing to say.... but, given the topic of your research and given your degree... let's just say it's possible that it's attracted some people who may have some issues. I say this out of personal experience in my own program (even though I know we're in different programs). Sounds like this girl needs help. She sounds like she may either have an aggressive coping style with insecurity or maybe even has some kind of personality disorder. Seriously.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02697957718424745938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-753685376168608657.post-18191616640462010972013-11-14T23:12:33.059-05:002013-11-14T23:12:33.059-05:00I'm so sorry she's doing this to you. I...I'm so sorry she's doing this to you. I'm shocked that adults (or humans in general) do this kind of thing. Her behavior toward you is beyond disrespectful, aggressive, and just plain mean. I'm really glad you're discussing it with your professor and standing up for yourself. I want to tell you that you are none of the things she said you are. You are: sweet, kind, compassionate, considerate, respectful, and very lovely. She's flat out wrong, and clearly has some weird thing against you. I'm really sorry she targeted you. I'm glad that your friends and mom have been so supportive and caring. Sending hugs and good thoughts your way!Aliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10715046132281175549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-753685376168608657.post-80683917130112189262013-11-14T20:35:40.448-05:002013-11-14T20:35:40.448-05:00Thanks Teresa - I've been thinking about doing...Thanks Teresa - I've been thinking about doing that. The professor of that class is actually a dean, so hopefully working with her will be effective.Kayleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07637653451031426942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-753685376168608657.post-13189091508948403242013-11-14T20:34:46.650-05:002013-11-14T20:34:46.650-05:00People do indeed suck. Thanks for those sites, I w...People do indeed suck. Thanks for those sites, I will definitely check them out.Kayleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07637653451031426942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-753685376168608657.post-32797835237006141612013-11-14T19:34:46.392-05:002013-11-14T19:34:46.392-05:00If her emails were truly awful, you might think ab...If her emails were truly awful, you might think about whether it would be appropriate to share copies with your professor. I can totally understand why that might feel like a hard thing to do, but if she is really responding so negatively, you've got to consider your own mental health and your academic career. I've had situations like this professionally, and sometimes people just pick on you for some reason. I'm sorry you've got to deal with this!Teresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01581030545909504209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-753685376168608657.post-22943060289868385102013-11-14T13:42:36.772-05:002013-11-14T13:42:36.772-05:00People suck sometimes. That's all the advice I...People suck sometimes. That's all the advice I have. Except maybe something from either of these sites will be helpful? http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/, http://behavioraltech.org/resources/tools_consumers.cfm<br /><br />Not at all suggesting this is your problem, but some of those interpersonal skills have come in handy for me when dealing with absurd classmates/profs/etc. JShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01730134189350353270noreply@blogger.com